HOW TO: Spend Valentine’s Day as a Single Lady or Mom

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·      Get chocolate. Who says you need someone to buy it for you? Get a box of chocolate and enjoy it. Chocolate releases endorphins in the brain to make you feel good! So a little chocolate will actually improve your mood and make you feel better.

·      Spend time with those you love. Instead, spend time with different kind of love - your friends and your family. See a movie with some friends, eat dinner at the local diner with a handful of family, whatever you do, love is love, and Valentine's Day is there to represent it. You don't need to be in a romantic relationship to enjoy V-day.

·      If you just got out of a bad relationship, a great idea of what to do for yourself is, make it a "Pamper Day" or an "All About You Day". Go spend some money on yourself. It's good to be a little selfish now and then. And when you see those red heart decorations or you hear a love song, think of yourself, and how much you love yourself.

·      Use Valentine's Day as an actively seek a partner day, so many places put on singles evenings so get your girlfriends or male friends together and head for a singles party. Who knows who you might meet?

·      Whether it’s George Clooney or Johnny Depp, spend the night with your ultimate celeb crush. Rent a handful of his movies and treat yourself to an eye.

·      Organize a Secret Admirers gifting sesh, à la Secret Santa: You and a group of friends draw names and then deliver items like chocolates, flowers, and teddy bears to each other. That way everyone can have a Valentine...

·       Ask a guy friend out for a platonic date and split a meal at a tasty restaurant. Make a game out of your dinner discussion by looking around the restaurant at all the couples (there will be a ton!) and guessing which ones will actually last, based on their body language.

·      Go see a live show … Even if you live in a small town, there's always a local band playing somewhere! If you don't want to see theatre, why not check out a comedy, variety or performance? Lots of big cities have special events on Valentine's Day for the brokenhearted.

·      Have a Fondue Party… The best part about Valentine's Day isn't the lovey-dovey stuff - it's the chocolate. And there's no funner way to eat chocolate than fondue. You just melt some down and dip whatever you want into it! Here's an easy recipe for peanut butter chocolate fondue. Cook it up, prepare some stuff to dip and enjoy it with a couple of friends.

·      Valentine's Day is all about love, and nothing spreads the love faster than a little volunteer work. Find a place to volunteer or just spend some time with an elderly relative. After all, if you can't find a date, you'd might as well make all of your romantically-inclined friends feel shallow. (Just kidding.)

·      Cross something big off your bucket list (or start one!) Let your adventurous side run free and choose a new experience to try for the first time. Something with an adrenaline rush would make for a fun experience; things like bungee jumping or skydiving are good options for a one-day activity.

Your First 60 Seconds With A Woman - David DeAngelo

I want to talk about one of the most critical times when meeting a woman... it's the

first 60 seconds.

Besides the obvious point that you want to make the right first impression, there are a few things that happen (or don't happen) which most guys either overlook or never realize.

If you understand the dynamics of the first 60 seconds or meeting a new women, it will

REALLY help you take the relationship to the next level.

Probably the most important thing to realize is that even though the first 60 seconds may sometimes seem awkward, YOU MUST KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING!

Here's why: Whenever you meet someone new, they were thinking about or doing something else before you started talking to them.

When you start the new conversation, it often takes a little while for the woman that you've just met to relax and start opening up.

She has to "shift gears", so to speak.

Most guys make the mistake of thinking that a woman isn't interested if she doesn't start smiling and laughing immediately. They give up if a woman looks even a little bit shy or uncomfortable.

DON'T DO THAT!

Stick with it. Keep talking. If you've read my other newsletters and my book "Double Your

Dating" you know that I love to use sarcastic, Cocky & Funny humor.

                                            More to read!

A Phone Conversation

Yesterday, a colleague of mine raised an issue which I found quite interesting. She said and I quote, "I don't think any lady in this age should by her own phone - what ever type it is, BlackBerry, iPhone, Android, etc She should get any phone she desires as a gift...yes she should".

Hearing this I was 1. Stunned (haven't figured out why exactly) 2. Bothered - I wanted to know why she thought and said, it definitely couldn't have been a random idea that just clicked somewhere in her head. She sounded convinced of it, because when I asked why she believed so she steered back at me in amazement like I was from a totally different specie of the woman-hood. She looked surprised as to why I ask that and more awed when I told her I bought the phone (iPhone) I'm using at the moment for myself because it is essential for my career.... My point I explained to her; I needed the phone, I ordered for it, got it and there, it's mine. So why do I need a man(her opinion of the giver) to buy me a phone.

Well, her rule is that a woman should have enough men (boyfriends, lovers,) in her life , enough to get her different 'toys' anytime she wants one but yes, she has to ask them all to have lots of options..just so many offers come by. 

My points are:

• I get it, we all love gifts but how's it a gift when you have to ask different guys and most likely stalk them even though some might request something in between or after? 
• Where then is the boundary between decency, prostitution and hawking? Because frankly 70% of these men request something in return even before they give that which requested.
• Also, do women (these days) believe they need to be bought everything?
•  Is getting all they (women) need a reason to get married these days...especially when they end up divorced after a very short time together?

These are just few of my questions...*still wondering*

Say After me.....

People
Are
Talking
About.......The Power of Affirmation


Say after me.....’’I am a powerful, successful and spirited woman’’, ’’I am a powerful, successful and spirited woman’’, ’’I am a powerful, successful and spirited woman’’.
The power of affirmation, declaration and manifestation is a very unique and unfathomable source of good living. It has always been my guardian since I was (sceptically) introduced to it in my early days. It started a cycle in my life when I faced a cul-de-sac and desired new beginnings which I didn’t see coming. Every morning I woke up and longed for something extraordinary, something unique, something huge I could raise my head up high to say....Yes, I earned it!
As I grew older, my understanding of the power of affirmation increased tremendously. Then a wise mentor equipped me with the simple wand to the reinventions and I have witnessed the magic of it ever since. I have faced the start of each year, the beginning of every project and the limp into every relationship with the yearn for assurance, wishing each time that perhaps a fairy godmother or any good spirit would reveal it all and help me cope with the fast changing system of the world. But as an author says, ’’Solace does not always live in a crystal ball.’’ Where then does it laze?
The power of affirmation that leads to success lies no where else except in the tongue and the strength of the thoughts within. To every end and sphere of life I have applied the discipline of positive affirmation and come up with ideas and opportunities that breezes with optimism and under writes the notion of revival. With revival comes a sense of liberation, little wonder transformation happens everywhere and in the life of every individual. There is no permanent stagnancy in ANY life. Because for every being with a sense of reasoning and streams of thoughts, wanderings goes through. There are lots of mantras; the positive and negative ones. While it’s very possible to think positive, inspiring and successful thoughts within, but what the eyes sees of the future reconstructs and determines whether or not the supposed ’’positivity’’ within turns right or wrong.
To every sense of good is a measure of bad or evil. The power of affirmation goes a long way in any situation. And like the popular childhood adage, ’’action speaks louder than voice’’, the power to attract good and positivity is dependant on what the physical body finds to do in other to squirt the mind to constant optimism. But let’s not fool ourselves, we all like a sneak peak of the future as much as we should remain sober, positive and realistic, the speculation of things to come is part and parcel of living.
On the one hand, I don’t think any of us will be totally sad to see a play back of the previous year. It wasn’t kind or pretty for the psyche, but it was definitely a wake up call; and somehow I would refer to it as a rude awakening call as I saw meaning to much deeper matters but apparently the revelation came with a slam of regret and self-beatings. Most people I know and came across last year ended the year feeling the same – somewhat shaken and stirred. But not me, I ended the year with a very huge degree of positivity. I claimed, declared, desired, saw and received everything I longed for in the new year. Now is the year I saw and ventured into – the positives so desired are visible and more are in place – all to the power of affirmation.
Therefore, the power of affirmation, like every ’’good morning’’ and ’’good bye’’ means something. It’s not just about saying the say, but about saying the say with a great measure of affirmation. And positive affirmation it is. The power of positive affirmation doesn’t just let you say everything as it should be, even if you don’t necessarily understand why. It assures you there’s just something better, there’s a greater path and status.
At the start of everyday, we like robots, just climb on our routine system – wake up, dress up, traffic to, traffic back, dinner in traffic or no dinner at all, home, sleep. But we don’t realise that it’s during those trying periods that we need some mental support, some emotional gear up. The right moment to say the right words, ponder the positive thoughts and go ahead to affirm them. The world needs more positivity affirming people, these are not just people, but unique personalities that see beyond now, beyond the things that appear little but create greatness. Deep down we all know we like to spread the love, but usually, we are always too busy – obsessed with matters that ultimately doesn’t count.
How about you take up the challenge like most people are doing now, with a simple affirmation say ’’Yes, I can’’; (remember the Barack Obama mobilised slang). Pass on the message that brings hope and smile to faces. Learn to share a message of positivity, love and liberation and make affirmations of courage and hope, then believe that with the power of affirmation, everything is working right.....and really it is!