How High can you Fly?

Sometimes ago while thinking about, Ludacris' song - 'How low can you go?' a thought flashed through my mind, and I was like okay, 'how high can you go - fly, jump, aspire in life?'

As often said, attitude determines altitude. How good or bad your attitude determines how far - good/bad you'll go in life... First all, what's your attitude?

After careful thinking, I came up with few deductions...

Doing Good, Being Good

Sometimes I ask myself, "what is enough?" 

Enough here means appropriate, decent, over average, remarkable and the likes.
I feel there's a place and point in life one gets and feels he/she has done enough for a situation or person; that point of saying "yes, I've given enough, let me hold up a bit" which sometimes sounds mediocre.

Enough isn't about cash, fame or control, it's more of chances - the ones you've given and the ones you've longed for. 

Enough is of opportunities missed or managed, it's of emotions hidden, discovered or shattered, it's of maturity. 

Although it's not good to be satisfied with enough especially when it comes to success and knowledge, few things do require it. Few things like;

* Incessant yarn for negativity - news, gossip, etc
* The desire to satisfy people - bosses, families & friends
* The fight for great success when sacrifices haven't been made - it destroys growth!
* The pleasure of damaging and badgering good will
* The non-nonchalant attitude on jobs - individual or corporate
* The tiny things, people that give pleasure that lasts a second then comes the greater pain.
* About the plans for tomorrow...and more.

What things do you think you've had enough of? 

Your First 60 Seconds With A Woman - David DeAngelo

I want to talk about one of the most critical times when meeting a woman... it's the

first 60 seconds.

Besides the obvious point that you want to make the right first impression, there are a few things that happen (or don't happen) which most guys either overlook or never realize.

If you understand the dynamics of the first 60 seconds or meeting a new women, it will

REALLY help you take the relationship to the next level.

Probably the most important thing to realize is that even though the first 60 seconds may sometimes seem awkward, YOU MUST KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING!

Here's why: Whenever you meet someone new, they were thinking about or doing something else before you started talking to them.

When you start the new conversation, it often takes a little while for the woman that you've just met to relax and start opening up.

She has to "shift gears", so to speak.

Most guys make the mistake of thinking that a woman isn't interested if she doesn't start smiling and laughing immediately. They give up if a woman looks even a little bit shy or uncomfortable.

DON'T DO THAT!

Stick with it. Keep talking. If you've read my other newsletters and my book "Double Your

Dating" you know that I love to use sarcastic, Cocky & Funny humor.

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Musing: The Thing About Martin, Martini & Me.

"Be sober, be very sober, if only for a few days" I repeated these words to myself continuously for two days over the last two weeks - but no, I couldn't sustain the indulgence of abstaining from a cup of Martini - ( yes I meant Martini up there not Martin...lol) The relationship we both share started a long while back when i couldn't bare sticking with the other guys- Vodka, Henessey, etc I broke free from them I made a final decision to be with my only true love- Martini. I love Martin (the bartender who gave me my first glass of Martini at Flamingo;a couple of years back) but hey now I love Martini than him who hooked us up. I must admit however that Martini didn't just hook us up, he revealed what we both have in common; a gentle spirit that ignites passion as well inspires creativity- I remember days I couldn't really get much done without a cup of Martini...oh how we adored each other. Martin also revealed that Martini and I also share a freshness that's crispy and sweet; if it's reddish, smooth and sexy, It's us both. On those days when all I really want to do is relax even while working but I can't Martini fits right into the situation relieving of that languid feeling- now, that's a relationship to cherish. In summary, I'll say a big thanks to Martin, my favourite mixologist, as he prefers- who hooked Martini and up and also taught me the numerous Martini cocktails. And to be BFF, Martini I say, may this amore continue.

Rambling: Ode to Julie & Julia

So I'll probably do this again .... or not. But still I'll do it and write it too. Yesterday was one of those finely awkward days- it all started sweet, easy and inspiring - till almost close of work hours when boss became all fussy and cold. Well, nobody knew why so hush hush life goes on. Good. All's almost fine now, I'll reply some mails, do more instagram (enough to save my social media for the day), check those weird comments on Facebook and finally skip through some movies e.g my recently downloaded movie - Julie & Julia ft two of my top favourite actors(gist for another time) I tried skipping through Julie & Julia like any other evening movie I try to watch on my laptop but ended up returning to the start only to watch from the beginning. Do I hear you ask how it is - the movie I mean? To say it was a swell time would be an understatement. Oh, it was few minutes of insightful memories into the lives of two beautifully married women but the focus in the movie ofcourse is Food! Not just food but 'the act of cooking'! It was thrilling seeing all kinds of menu being prepared. It made me want to eat all, as well indulge a new desire - cooking, fine cooking. So I tried. Though I left the office a bit late - 9:05pm I still cooked something. Something I thought right on, it however turned out to be something I've always wanted to re- do - butter boiled carrots with brown rice. I'm home. The first thing I do is drop my bags, get the chop board, wash the carrots and start shredding and dicing. Note; this is not so fun, I dislike dicing and cutting condiments or anything at all. But tonight is definitely different, can't quite pick where I gathered this unusual strength and longing from- all I wanted to do was cook. Amazing! Done cutting carrots...

I prepare the pot, put in the butter(learnt you can't have too much butter from Julia) so I continue adding till I felt a slight notch to stop. Next I put in the diced carrots and started stirring on and on and on and on. I stirred till there was very little visibility of the butter - more like, I let the carrots soak in all the butter- there was no burn too, quite unusual of me. After a good boil I pour in the rice and let simmer for few minutes before adding water and other ingredients- salt, Maggie, pepper(because I was dreading the taste of just butter...yawk! Skip few minutes from now and dinner or breakfast(cos it's actually like 12:06am now) is ready! And sincerely till this moment when I'm almost done with my first serving did I remember I haven't taken a picture of the result of the entire late night cooking...Lol! Okay, off to get more so I can get a picture to convince you...lol that I did prepare this meal. Here....

While this is a very delicious and satisfying meal, it is not quite one someone too cautious of weight like me should often consider...No, not at all! Imagine all the amount of butter that went in there but hey, carrot is healthy too! Even though I added a piece of chicken to the first serving. Anyways it's all about indulging. So, get to it. Indulge! Btw, a big thanks to Julie & Julia, the movie for the inspiration!